During yesterday’s Walk and Talk, my client expressed the pain she was feeling about being stuck in her clutter situation. She was in turmoil and was critical of herself that she had let it happen .
I said it was natural that she was feeling hurt. It doesn’t feel good to be stuck. I also said the situation was what it was and that she would start to feel better if she accepted it as something that had happened and begin taking little actions that would bring her some relief.
Dwelling about an uncomfortable situation can feel like an action. But it only adds weight to the problem. Taking doable actions, usually small ones because when you’re overwhelmed your capacity is diminished, is the way through to a new situation. You won’t know what the final result will look like as you move in the direction of what’s next, but you will begin to feel better as you move.
She told me some simple actions that she could take. As she began mentioning them, the heat and fury of her worries began to diminish. She became focused and grounded. It was a beautiful thing to see.
I know how easy it is to get lost in worry. I also know how exhausting it is. My experience is that starting an action in the direction of a solution brings me back to myself. Because I know it works for me, I use it when I work with clients. I recommend trying it out when you feel stuck too.