So much of marketing and social conditioning focuses on bringing something extra-ordinary into our lives. The message is basically say, “When you get ____, your life is going to be sooo much better!” Through the repetition of these kind of messages, we can’t help but feel that as we are isn’t enough.
It helps to take a look at those feelings. Are they true? Are you in your current life not enough? Will the addition of certain things actually make you better and happier? Or, are you enough in this moment? Are there good things about your life right now?
I sometimes feel that I’m not enough, and that if I could only get a certain amount of money, clients, or sell a TV show, then I’ll be okay. But then I stop and ask, “How would those things make me feel okay if I’m not feeling okay now? Sure, they would be exciting in the moment, but excitement doesn’t equal self-esteem.” I realize that I’ve fallen for the trap of: getting more makes me more.
What helps me feel okay again is to take a slow walk through my life. For me that means taking the time to notice the ordinary things that I’ve overlooked. I’m healthy. I have a loving and kind relationship with my wife. I have good friends. I like my car. I sleep well at night. My life is simple. I don’t have any enemies. I like my sense of humor and imagination. I have a good relationship with my sister and my mom. I love playing my guitar. I like the trees on our property, especially the apple tree and its delicious fruit.