Not knowing what’s going to happen next can be scary. “What if it’s something terrible? What will become of me?” That’s especially true now in this time of the coronavirus. A lot of us are afraid. It’s easy to find ourselves fearing for our lives.
I think it can be helpful to take a deeper look at uncertainty. As humans we have an innate fear of change. We can often find ourselves resisting change. We can do this by denying what’s actually happening. Or distracting ourselves in a myriad of ways. Or we can be aware of the change and imagine worst case scenarios for where it will take us. The problem with both is it takes us out of the moment, and makes it very hard for us to be adaptable when we most need to be.
There’s something freeing about being aware of the change, and seeing what will happen. We may be scared, we may be nervous, but we’re open. There’s peacefulness in the openness. It’s simple.
You’re aware of what you’re feeling, you’re aware of what’s happening around you, you’re aware of your thoughts, you’re aware of your body. You may feel tension, you may be worried, and you’re not trying to erase your experience. You’re here. With this realization, you feel yourself take a breath. And then another breath. There’s some ease that comes from this. Some clarity. You’re able to take care of yourself amidst whatever is going on around you.
We may find ourselves at another moment going back into our old habit of resisting the change. That’s natural. It’s a habit. Habits have a way of reoccurring. We say to ourselves, “Okay, that happened. It doesn’t feel very good to avoid what’s happening right now. I’d like to come back to what’s actually happening.” When we come back, we find we have our wits about us. We feel grounded. We’ve come back to ourselves. Life is a lot easier even if the situation around us is in upheaval.
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