It’s a normal feeling to not want to let go of clutter because for most of our life we’ve been told that we are not enough and we need things in order to feel and be better. We end up feeling that it’s wrong to let go. We feel that we will be losing something of value.
Another reason it’s normal to resist is the longer something has been in our lives, and that includes people and activities as well as things, the more we identify ourselves with the thing in question. The thing feels like an intimate part of us. “What would I be without ______?”
Lastly, it’s normal to want to say no to clutter busting because change is difficult. Even if what’s in our life is causing us grief and pain, there’s a fear of, “If I let this go, what will take its place?” It’s the fear of the unknown.
What helps is to expect to feel the resistance. That way when you feel like, “I don’t want to declutter,” you’re not surprised. “Oh, there it is, there’s my not wanting to let go of what’s no longer serving me. Of course I’m feeling this. I’ve been hypnotized to think I’m nothing without my stuff. Plus these things have been around so long that I feel that they are a physical part of me. It would be like thinking of letting go of a limb. Lastly it’s scary to change. Even if the change is good for me.”
When you expect to feel these feelings, they aren’t overwhelming. You feel them, but they don’t stop you in your tracks. It gives you the space to feel, “Even though I’m experiencing resistance, I’m going to move forward with the clutter busting process. I sense that by questioning and removing what’s hurting me, I’m going to feel relief. That’s what I’m looking for. I want to feel the weight of the clutter dropping away from my life.”