I said the first thing you do is honor the difficulty. Notice that you are having a hard time. The resistance needs to be heard. That means be kind to yourself and take the time to be with the feeling. There’s a healing that comes from the kindness of listening.
Sometimes the emotional hold feels painful. We’d rather not feel the pain. It seems like it would be easier to try and make ourselves push past the pain, or walk away from it altogether. That’s because it can feel scary to experience the vulnerability of our feelings. They haven’t been heard for a while and can seem loud and overwhelming. But that’s because the feelings need the comfort of your love and attention.
It’s possible to listen to those emotions by sitting quietly with the feelings that come up. It can also help to be aware of your breathing. You can put your hand on your heart and wait patiently. You can write what you’re feeling. You can say it out loud. Whatever feels right for you in the moment. Maybe you need to cry. You’ll know what’s best for you.
Our hearts have a natural healing ability. When our attention goes to our heart in a difficult moment like this, the heart’s resources kick in. Being a patient witness is very helpful.
Once the emotional healing has happened, it becomes easier to physically let go of the thing, item, or person in question. This can create a great sense of freedom within yourself.