Here’s another interesting thing that happened at the Clutter Busting workshop. A woman shared about how unhappy she was with her job. The stress of the job was taking a toll on her mental and physical health. She cried when she talked about how hard the job was on her.
I asked if she was open to letting go of the job. She panicked and said she couldn’t let it go because in ten years, she would become eligible for a pension. I said the way things were going, she might not be around to receive the pension. She told me that a person at her job had recently died from the emotional and physical toll of the work.
Still she held on to the need to stay at the job, saying that she had the will power to make it through the ten years. I told her that she looked incredibly sad and exhausted when she said what she just said.
Sometimes we can become so enmeshed with a person, thing, or activity that is hurting us, that even though we see the toll it is taking, we can’t let go. It’s infuriating because we are built to avoid pain, but in this situation, we are powerless. Other people can point this out to us, and we still can’t let go.
I said that it felt was like she was holding up the job like it was person who was strangling her. I said that as long as she stayed on the job, it would do everything it could to take her health and life. But if she were to let go of the job, she would take herself out of harms ways. It would be uncertain what would happen to her next. That could seem scary, especially since she was exhausted and not capable of healthy thoughts. But in uncertainty, a world of possibilities exists. Plus life has a way of taking care of people when they begin to take care of themselves.
She had a moment of quietness, and realized a solution. She could rent out her home, creating the income she needed to be able to leave her job. She could live in a trailer on her property. She looked immensely lighter and alive. It was like she’d finally put down a thousand pounds she’d been carrying on her back for a long time.