Sometimes if I’m feeling edgy, I’ll stop and take notice of that current of discord in my body. I call it the curious look.
I’ve discovered that curiously looking at the uncomfortable feelings has a way of making them diminish. This is more effective than looking and getting upset with their presence.
I figured this out only after a long while. I used to think it was normal to get involved with the upset I was feeling. I saw this involvement with the upset was a common way of being in myself and others I was close to. Plus I saw it in the characters in movies and in TV shows.
I think the trick to this is starting to have a curiosity about your feelings, as if you’re looking at a flower or a piece of art. In a real honest way, the upset isn’t you, because it’s not there all the time. It just happened to come in, like a rainstorm. And like a storm, you can’t make it go away. You’re going to get wet. But the panic and the upset don’t help.
Maybe next time you might find yourself having an openness to looking at the difficult situation in a different way.