My wife and I give each other Couponers for our birthdays. They are a collection of coupons to be used for fun things throughout the year. For instance, “Dinner and a movie,” “Road Trip,” “Surprise.” The one I used last Saturday was, “King for a Day.”
I was pretty excited and clueless about how to use this coupon. I figured I’d make it up as we went along. I started out by asking my wife to make me a tuna melt. It’s one of my favorite sandwiches. Then we hit the road and randomly visited a bunch of local places I was curious about but never been before. We found fresh gluten-free scones at a bakery. We bought some beautiful plants for our yard at a nearby ecology center. My wife bought me a copy of Bruce Springsteen’s autobiography that I’d been wanting to read, at a neighborhood bookstore. Later I asked her to take me to see a movie called, Sidemen: Long Road to Glory. It was about great, but mostly unknown blues musicians, who backed up Muddy Waters and Howlin’ Wolf. Plus she got me a huge amount of buttered popcorn at the theater. After the movie we picked figs off a tree in the theaters’ parking lot. These were a handful of the things we did.
It was fun to have a full day where I got ask for what I wanted and enjoy receiving those gifts. But the most interesting thing for me was that after a while it wasn’t about asking and getting, but it was spending together time with my wife. I enjoyed the playing with my companion. The things were nice, but it was the shared experience that was the best. Connection is the best gift I’ve had through my life. Whether it’s been with my wife, friends, nature, creativity, clients, you, and myself.