I returned home a few days ago after spending a month up in Oregon helping my mom move into an assisted living/memory care facility. Rather than drive the usual 9 hours back, I did a nice thing for myself and stayed in a hotel on the road for one night. It’s part of my taking care of myself first. I tried my best to do that when I was with my mom in order to avoid getting fried. I was still pretty tired, but less than if I’d sacrificed my well-being.
Along the way home I noticed birds. Many birds were migrating. I loved watching them in their flying-v formations. It gave me a boost. In some wild way I felt like I was part of that bird traveling energy.
I also noticed birds sitting closely to one another on telephone wires. I thought maybe they were keeping each other warm. Again I felt like they were friendly comrades. It made me feel less alone.
I thought about how my mom responded to moving into her new home. Her doctor told her that she had dementia and she could no longer take care of herself. She seemed to relax when she got the news. She said that she wanted to simplify her life. She wanted to sell her house and her car and just live with the basics. She decided that she would now go by her artist name which was Lyn. Previously she went by Lynne. This gave her a sense of strength.
I was inspired by my mom’s acceptance of her new situation. She didn’t fight the facts, or say it shouldn’t be happening. She said, “I’ve left my old life behind.”