I remember growing up and being asked a lot by the adults, “What do you want to be?” I made up a lot of answers because I didn’t know. I think I said, “Astronaut,” a lot. Deep down, I wished they’d asked me, “What’s it like being a kid?” Being a kid seemed to be the better deal because we weren’t stressed and unhappy like the adults.
Once I got to be an adult, I’m often asked, “What kind of work do you do?” It seems like the old question, but present tense. I often vary my answer based on what I’m interested in that day.
I think those questions are popular because the inner life of feelings and emotions are vulnerable, and sometimes scary to look at. They aren’t tangible and grounded like a job. The inner life is like an ocean, with rising and falling thoughts and feelings. It can feel too intimate to ask and talk about them.
The interesting thing is, we’re all very similar when it comes to thoughts, feelings, and emotions. People from vast backgrounds, lifestyles, and careers have common inner lives. Even if you’re not feeling sad in the moment, you can relate to someone sharing their sadness.
One of the things I like about helping people de-clutter is I get to see people as they are, without the interference of their jobs and identities. As the clutter goes, the identification with the stuff falls away and the real person comes out into the world.
One of the biggest forms of clutter that shows it’s face during a clutter bust is the question, “What’s my purpose?” I’ve seen a lot of people plagued by that question. There’s a desire to find out and be living a specific purpose. I think this comes from being asked as a kid, “What do you want to do when you grow up?” and when you’re an adult, “What do you do?”
What I recommend to people is to know that they have many purposes. Hundreds of purposes that come and go throughout their lives. There isn’t one. Maybe one is dominant for a little bit, but then that diminishes and something else takes its place. If one really needs one purpose, then perhaps, breathing. You need to breathe to stay alive. And the great thing about that purpose is it’s already happening all the time. So, congratulations!!!
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