Yesterday, my wife asked for my help clutter busting her office. I told her to bring everything out of her office and put it on the dining room table, and we’d go through it, piece by piece. I knew she was feeling stuck, and I was so excited to help her eliminate things that weren’t working for her, business-wise. It was like a game to me — how could we figure out the solution?
She showed me two file folders and said, “I don’t want to go through these. Let’s start somewhere else.” My training spoke up when I said, “Okay, we’ll start with those two folders.” She smiled wearily. She knew it was smart to start with the worst.
Though I had a giddy feeling as I helped, I also felt nice and calm and grounded. I noticed that I didn’t need to think much about clutter busting — I can just help people, direct them toward the work in a non-judgmental way, and stay calm as they panic — all of which helps them get the work done. Where does this ability come from? I have no idea, but when I’m doing it I feel powerful and gentle at the same time.
More importantly, I actually helped my wife. After her initial resistance and overwhelm, she remarked how quickly the work was getting done. When we were finished, she looked like a new person. She felt strength and confidence for her business in the new year.
Though I love clutter busting, I notice I don’t do it as much as I’d like. There used to be more clutter busting work in my life. It’s embarrassing to write this to you, because I want you to imagine that I’m clutter busting all the time. Like I’m backed up 3-4 months with clients. But that’s not the case. Sometimes I hear from people asking, “I’d like to work with you; you must be booked up.” I think I give off that impression because of the success of my books.
There’s a part of me that’s afraid you will think I’m no good if people aren’t clamoring to my door. But I have to remind myself and you that I’m good at this — when I work with people it’s fresh, powerful, and effective.
There’s a part of me that says since there’s no demand, the universe is telling me to let my business go. I’ve actually done that a few times — I think I even wrote one or two blog posts about it, and I’ve taken clutter busting off my website. But the problem with that is I like to clutter bust. I don’t want to clutter bust clutter busting, because it’s fun for me, and gratifying. It’s my way of helping people value themselves.